Part One
What the shift costs
The pressure on the person keeping order.
- 1The Cost of Absorbing
Sports Officiating SkillsKeep the room moving.
Get home with something left.
By Jason S. Comely, creator of Rejection Therapy.
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Sometimes the answer is a better angle. Sometimes it is a clear decision, a quiet word, or the discipline to leave a harmless complaint alone.
A good shift makes room for people to get on with their lives. Someone rests. Someone gets an answer. A worker notices a need before it becomes a crisis. A difficult shift can follow you home. The argument you replay. The handover that missed something important. The moment your coworker vanished when you needed help.
Sports officials face pressure, anger, and split-second decisions while keeping the whole game in view. Referee The Room brings their practical skills to frontline work.
Its starting point is preventative officiating: acting while a problem is still small. A better position. An early word. A clear expectation. A coworker watching what you cannot.
De-escalation helps when tension is rising. Preventative officiating also works on the conditions around the encounter: where people wait, what they expect, whether instructions agree, and who notices friction before it gathers an audience.
Drawing on nearly seven years in homeless shelters, Jason S. Comely shows you how to:
From the first handover to the ride home, learn to protect the flow of the room and the person helping it function.
Four parts take you from what the work costs to the ride home. The appendixes keep the references in one place.
Part One
The pressure on the person keeping order.
Part Two
Prepare with your crew before the first call.
Part Three
Position, judgment, support, and the return to play.
Part Four
Complete the handover. Look after the worker going home.
Appendixes
Review the call. Practise with your crew. Check the sources.
Situations in a worker’s own words. Each one gives you what to do and words you can use, often returning to a sports story from the chapter.
Your Workplace pages, two pages of workplace notes, and two contact pages hold what a busy shift makes you search for: where the procedures are kept, where the emergency equipment is, and who to reach after hours.
The back of the book is an A to Z of 326 lines in a worker’s own words. Find the words closest to your situation. Page numbers lead to answers.
Eight of the 326 lines in the book:
During an emergency, use your trained response immediately.
What to do and say
If the immediate danger has passed, take a brief reset where you can still observe your area. Unclench your hands, release your jaw, and breathe slowly and comfortably a few times. Check one concrete thing: can you follow the next instruction and act on it? “Give me a moment. I want to get this right.” Then continue the task you own.
Take a short listening pause and keep breathing comfortably while you prepare for the next decision. Chapter 6 develops this through Doug Harvey’s silent count. Keep responsibility for your work. Shaking alone does not decide whether you can continue. If symptoms prevent safe essential work or suggest a medical problem, tell the lead promptly and arrange the necessary help and confirmed coverage. That is a response to incapacity, not the routine answer to an unpleasant encounter.
A complete entry from On Your Shift, chapter 1, page 15.
Page numbers refer to the paperback.
Start with the book. When your crew wants to run it together, the course gives one of you the slides and the script. When you want the author in the room, book a live session.
For one worker
Paperback
Twelve chapters, 106 situations in a worker’s own words, 38 video stories with short YouTube links, Your Workplace pages to fill in, and the Look It Up index. Read it on the bus. Keep it at the desk.
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For one site, run by one of your own staff
$399USD
Twelve sessions of about 25 minutes, one per chapter, sized for a staff meeting or a shift huddle. A coworker presents. The script is under every slide.
See a free sample: Module 5, The Private Warning (PDF)
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For your team, with the author
By Zoom or in person
Send five situations from your floor in advance. Jason answers them live from the book, then runs the drills with your crew. Consulting and speaking are available too.
The Crew Course is a founding edition, built from the book, and it improves with every crew that runs it. If it does not work for your team, email within 30 days for a refund.
Governing bodies publish rules and training guidance. Officials describe how they prepare, make decisions, work with fellow officials, and stay in the job. The book names its sources so you can check them, and 38 of its stories come with a short YouTube link so you can watch the official yourself.
Soccer, hockey, basketball, baseball, rugby, cricket, American football, tennis, volleyball, boxing, and mixed martial arts.
The IFAB, FIBA, World Rugby, USA Hockey, UEFA, the MCC, U.S. Soccer, Major League Baseball, the FIVB, and The FA, plus workplace safety and health guidance. The Rules Behind the Answers lists all 35.
The examples come from shelters and drop-ins. An appendix applies the same practices to a ward or clinic, a classroom, a reception desk, public transport, and a public venue.
A book that brings the working practices of sports officials to frontline jobs. It covers the whole shift: taking the handover, getting into position, naming behaviour, giving a private warning, making a clear call, working with coworkers, responding to danger and distress, handing over, and the ride home. Its starting point is preventative officiating, which means acting while a problem is still small.
Anyone whose job includes telling people things they may not want to hear while keeping a service running. The examples come from homeless shelters and drop-ins. An appendix applies the same practices to a ward or clinic, a classroom, a reception desk, public transport, and a public venue.
The book starts earlier and runs longer. De-escalation helps when tension is rising. Preventative officiating also works on the conditions around the encounter: where people wait, what they expect, whether instructions agree, and who notices friction before it gathers an audience. Referee The Room covers that early work, the clear call when one is needed, the restart, and the handover.
It works inside them. Every practice is written to be used within your role, your training, and your site’s procedures. During an emergency, use your trained response immediately.
No. Each situation is written the way a worker would say it, and each answer gives you exact things you can say. Many answers return briefly to a sports story from the chapter, and the back of the book lists the rules and guidance behind them. The Afterword shows you what to watch the next time a game is on.
Find the words closest to your situation in the A to Z at the back of the book. Page numbers lead to answers. Different phrases may lead to the same entry.
Yes. Your Workplace pages, two pages of workplace notes, and two contact pages are there for your site’s details: where the procedures are kept, where the emergency equipment is, and who to reach after hours.
A PowerPoint file of 142 slides and a presenter guide PDF. Twelve modules of about 25 minutes, one per chapter of the book, each with a video story from the book and a pause to make the call, three more stories from the field, the call, a floor scene, words to practise aloud, the chapter’s situations with page numbers, a drill from Appendix B, a story from your own floor, and one thing to try on the next shift. The words to say are under every slide. One purchase covers one site.
Yes. Email info@refereetheroom.com with your organization’s billing details and Jason will send an invoice. The files arrive when it is paid.
Yes. A live session by Zoom or in person: send five situations from your floor in advance and Jason answers them live from the book, then runs the drills with your crew. Consulting and speaking are available too. Email info@refereetheroom.com for dates and pricing.
The paperback is on Amazon.